Letter to the Editor: Killingworth Where Are You?

Killingworth, Connecticut I am ashamed of you. I am so disappointed that EVERY town around us, big and small held a vigil Sunday and we had to travel to another town to participate.


Killingworth, Connecticut I am ashamed of you. I am so disappointed that EVERY town around us, big and small held a vigil Sunday and we had to travel to another town to participate.

We have plenty of space, resources and means to host our own. It is downright embarrassing that we are not coming together as a community to support the victims and families of the Sandy Hook Elementary School shooting, particularly since it is within our region. EVERY SINGLE town that surrounds us is holding a vigil... we stand alone by not having one. That is shameful. Even if ten people showed up... we'd be three of those! Connecticut is a small state, when you hurt one town - you hurt all of us. We must come together and show solidarity in this time of tragedy. And tonight, my family will do that even though as a town you have failed us.

St. Lawrence in Killingworth is holding a vigil, though it is probably by their coordination. And I thank them for that. When I expressed my opinions on this subject to Killingworth Today I was asked 'what I had done to arrange a vigil or who I had contacted' - I don't have the exact wording as the comments were deleted. My response was the following:

I look to our Town Government for leadership... like the other towns. They are leaders, which are why they are elected, not me. Their Selectman and leaders and churches came together and organized their vigils. I happen to work for two other municipalities and know how their vigils were organized and they didn't have to be urged by citizens. Granted, they were coordinated with the citizens which is how it should be. But Town leaders are supposed to be the ambassadors of the residents of their Town. They are representatives for us. So when a tragedy happens, we look to them to reach out on our behalf (which I assume was done), organize events such as vigils for residents, etc. Every town surrounding/near us had a vigil - Clinton, Westbrook, Madison, Essex, etc. etc. etc. and it is embarrassing that on Sunday... Killingworth was dark. But I guess I will take your suggestion. I will take it upon myself and make sure it happens because apparently I cannot rely on the powers that be to do so.

One reason I didn't 'reach out' to anyone is because we have a newly functioning website and our Town officials don't use social media the way many other towns do. They used it for updates during Hurricane Sandy, they used it to reassure parents Friday about school security measures and they've used it since then to update citizens on vigils, fundraisers, etc. for Sandy Hook victims. And where is Killingworth?? **crickets** 

Killingworth is facing a lot of problems right now... the least of which is the lack of a Facebook account. But when it is all added up- we are in the dark ages. And our Town in crisis. Bank robberies, regular burglaries, lack of communication during emergencies/storms... and if we can't do something as small but meaningful as come together as a community and plan a vigil to honor the victims of a tragedy in our own region I can’t imagine how we can conquer larger issues.

Where are our leaders??

Sarah Renois Judge, Killingworth

Jay Heavens December 28, 2012 at 03:41 PM
Sarah is clearly exposing her MO in here. She's an armchair alarmist, making invalid claims - looking to ramp up the drama. I never said I knew where she was (as she claims) - and she knows that - my letter is still there up above. I said I knew where she WASN'T! But she intentionally phrased her comment to try to paint me in a negative light. I knew all of the faces I saw at those events, and by simple extrapolation, concluded that hers was not among them. And I was correct. Sarah should just retract her ridiculous article. Especially in light of the fact she was proven wrong. Her far-fetched allegations of the town she so hates do nothing to help anyone.
Sarah Judge December 28, 2012 at 03:50 PM
My MO? Are you serious? Here you go detective - my MO is ALL I ever wanted was for a vigil in Killingworth FOR Killingworth residents. My secondary MO is that I would like to see more communication for and to residents via any sort of social media or website. That is all. I don't care about politics - I am in fact non-partisan. I don't care about who is in power. Those are THE ONLY TWO things I wanted. EVER. My apologies, I did not realize how important you are in Killingworth and know so very many faces. I am not hiding that I did not attend. I never said I went. I am not retracting any article. For one, it is not an article. It is a "Letter to the Editor" which is an opinion. If you don't like it, don't read it and mind your own business. I don't hate Killingworth, I am disappointed in certain aspects of it. Don't put words in my mouth.
Jay Heavens December 28, 2012 at 07:35 PM
Um... your letter is under "LETTERS to the Editor". You have shown how disingenuous you are every step of the way in here. Even to the point of calling your letter an article. This town is not the right fit for you, Sarah. And you are more than disappointed in it (we're in the "dark ages", "in crisis", "embarrassing") and do nothing but complain. I'm sure there are lots of places you'd be happier (okay, not so sure). Hey, but you stick to your guns, just for the sake of being too stubborn to admit you're wrong. You now know that town officials do not organize religious vigils - in any of the towns you so lauded. Hold on to your bitterness. It will really help others.
Sarah Judge December 28, 2012 at 08:08 PM
I am completely open to admit that I am wrong in not organizing a vigil from the start, as I stated in my LETTER. I should have realized it was not being done and stepped up. I should never have assumed. I regret my actions deeply. I had no idea that nothing was being done in line with the other towns. For that, I am wrong. But you have no right to tell me what I feel or what is or isn't the right fit for me. You don't know me or anything about me so stop acting like you do and making erroneous statements. You are taking this too far. I am allowed to state opinions and disappointment. That is all this was. And that is what this free society is about. And I do happen to know how some of the town's organized vigils as some of them were made part of public record. However, some were not even religious vigils. Here's a scandal for you buddy - I don't believe in organized religion! *gasp* Judge me now. So I don't seek out formal religious vigils though I would gladly attend one if organized. Many of the ones organized were 'candlelight vigils.' But why not call it a day. You think I am disingenuous and this isn't the right fit for me and I think... well, I'll keep that to myself. I think this has gone far enough. Honestly. It literally was mean to be a Letter to the Editor to relay an opinion. Not a witch hunt.
Jay Heavens December 28, 2012 at 08:26 PM
Okay. I'm willing to call it a day. Have a happy New Year.


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